Pathway to a happy marriage
How to find a new path to success in your marriage during your parenthood journey
However, Roger knows what happy couples do differently from unhappy couples and these practices can be learned. You'll walk away from class with those strategies and skills.
Understanding of the five stages of marital satisfaction including where you are and next steps in your journey
How to replace toxic patterns of interaction with actions that build unity
Greater respect, acceptance and love for your spouse
Practices to build positive feelings and friendship
Greater responsibility for your own feelings and needs
How to have more open and vulnerable communication
Skills to handle disagreements and conflict
The mindset and communication skills to have a great sexual relationship
A shared vision of the future
There are so many things that can affect this, from lacking good role models, coming into marriage ill-prepared, having unrealistic expectations of our partners, and not having learned the tools and skills to build a successful relationship. But the good news is that there is a vast body of research on happiness in marriage. Roger is here to teach you what happy couples do differently from unhappy couples and these practices can be learned.
Introduction to the class
Tips to get the most from the class
The five stages of marital satisfaction
Toxic pattern #1: escalation
Toxic pattern #2: invalidation
Toxic pattern #3: pursue and withdraw
Toxic pattern #4: negative interpretations
The importance of emotional connection
Guidelines to establish positive connection
The six habits of a great marriage
Check your understanding
Self-responsibility in marriage
Responsibility “to” vs. responsibility “for”
Playing the victim in my marriage
Victim or accountable
The relationship in your head
Take good care of yourself
Thou shalt not take offense
Emotional self-regulation
Emotional self-regulation-thought work
Check your understanding
The gift of honor and acceptance
Your partner’s bill of rights
I-it vs. I-thou
Speak your partner’s love language
Forgiveness: a clearing letter
Check your understanding
The friendship stage of marriage
Get to know your partner
Nurture admiration
Turn towards
Caring days
Fun and recreation
Sexuality and romance
Getting your head right about sex
Exploratory conversations about sex
Intimacy conversations during sex
Check your understanding
Communication: growth into mature love
Four styles of communication
Five patterns of communication
Becoming vulnerable
Vulnerable listening
How to listen
The conflict model
Steps to resolve conflict
Step one: start with respect
Step two: create a pool of shared understanding
Example of creating a pool of shared understanding
Step three: search for solutions
Check your understanding
Introduction to shared vision
Co-creating a shared vision
Creating marriage enrichment structures
Three marital rituals
Marital coat of arms
Conclusion
Bonus lecture
Resources to strengthen your marriage
Anyone who wants to improve their relationship skills
Couples who have been together for years
Couples just getting started
Couples who have a good relationship but want to go to the next level
Couples who are struggling
Singles and dating
Divorcees
Counselors and coaches who want to do more work with couples
Roger K. Allen